In my experience there are three most common relationship mistakes which will stop you from attracting and maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship:
Mistake # 1 – continually attracting partners who are unavailable
Mistake # 2 – continually attracting partners who need to be rescued
Mistake # 3 – continually attracting partners who need to change
These relationship mistakes come from patterns which are often deeply entrenched and programmed into your sub-conscience during childhood so you may not actually be aware that you are repeating them. Here are some tell-tale signs that you are making these mistakes.
1. Tell-tale signs that you are attracting partners who are unavailable
Your partners have other commitments in their lives such as work, children, family and friends or a hobby which take precedence over you.
At the beginning of relationships, you get on well with your partners, have lots in common and feel strong chemistry but they play it cool with you.
Your partners are still attached to their exes in some way such as not yet being divorced or giving emotional support to them.
Your partners are resistant to commitment such as introducing you to their friends and family, moving in or getting married.
Your partners live a reasonable distance from you so it is only possible to see each other at weekends or even less frequently.
Your partners are already in some kind of relationship such as married or living with someone.
2. Tell-tale signs that you are attracting partners who need to be rescued
Your partners are not financially stable and you end up lending or giving them money.
Your partners demand a high degree of emotional support without reciprocating to you.
Your partners have some kind of mental health issues which stop them from functioning normally.
Your partners are suffering from childhood traumas which have not yet been resolved.
Your partners are suffering from a physical condition which stops them from functioning normally.
Your partners suffer from extreme low self-esteem.
3. Tell-tale signs that you are attracting partners who need to change
Your see great potential in your partners and keep waiting for them to reach that potential.
Your partners are not happy in their work but don’t do anything to change their situation.
Your partners display unacceptable behaviour such as infidelity or mental or physical abuse.
Your partners have a very low sex drive.
Your partners have an inability to commit.
Why do you keep making these mistakes?
Until you realise that you have been making one or more of these relationship mistakes it is actually very hard to break the pattern. You are making these common relationship mistakes because of some kind of programming which took place during your childhood.
If one or more of your parents was unavailable to you in some way, working away from home, not demonstrative in their love and affection or ill or died then you are more likely to attract partners who are unavailable since it will feel familiar and strangely comfortable to be in a relationship with someone who is unavailable.
If you rescued one of your parents or siblings for example, by supporting an alcoholic or sick family member or taking on a parent role when your parents separated or caring for a younger sibling then you are more likely to attract partners who need rescuing because you didn’t manage to successfully rescue someone in your childhood or because this type of love feels familiar.
If you felt rejected or unloved by your parents as a child, you will more likely decide that romantic partners won’t give you what you want so you attract people who need to make BIG changes.
Another reason for attracting partners who are unavailable, need rescuing or need to make big changes is that you don’t believe you deserve to be in a fulfilling relationship so attract unfulfilled ones.
The first step in overcoming any of these common relationship mistakes is to recognise that you have been making them.