Before I met my soul mate I studied friends’ relationships, which I observed as fulfilled and loving. I was curious to discover what these friends had done, thought and believed to get into these relationships. Over time I noticed that consciously or sub-consciously they had all used the Law of Attraction for relationships.
The Law of Attraction is based on the scientific fact that everything, including our thoughts, is made up of energy. We all know that energy attracts like energy. We can witness this in the way that negative people seem to be surrounded by pessimists. Practice of The Law of Attraction can bring us whatever we want, including our perfect match.
The Law of Attraction is always working. Whatever you have in your life right now, whether it is negative or positive, you have attracted it.
The Law of Attraction is based on:
Positive thoughts about being with our soul mate will attract him/her into our lives, negative thoughts will repel him/her. For example, if we are constantly thinking about how unhappy we are being single, we will continue to attract unhappiness. If we are feeling happy in ourselves and appreciating our life, we will attract happiness. It is estimated that we have upwards of 60,000 thoughts a day and 70% of them are negative.
Monitor how many positive and negative thoughts you have about being in a new relationship or a current relationship on a daily and weekly basis.
Beliefs – Our limiting beliefs literally block out what we most want. Some of these beliefs may ring bells with you, “there are no decent guys/girls out there.” “Maybe it’s not meant to happen to me.” “I always attract the wrong ones.” “Why have all my friends settled down and had children and I’m left on my own?” “I’m no good at relationships.” “We can’t change anything in this relationship.” These beliefs keep us stuck in hopeless situations. They attract literally what they state. If you change these beliefs into more positive ones, you create more options in your life. For example, “I believe my soul mate is here and waiting for me “ and “I believe I will meet my soul mate when the time is right for both of us.” “If I change how I think in this relationship, the dynamics of the relationship will change.”
Notice how many negative beliefs you are holding about being in a fulfilled relationship and the impact they are having on your current reality.
We can think and believe that we want to be in a relationship but if our desire is any less than 100% then we will not attract that relationship into our lives. There is a fine line between wanting something and acting desperately. When we act desperately we are focusing more on what we don’t want, for example, the thought of being alone for the rest of our lives. The Law of Attraction means that if you focus on the thought of being alone for the rest of your life, that is exactly what you will get. The more you want something, or the longer you have been focusing upon your desire, the faster the energy moves.
Be really honest with yourself and ask how great your desire is to be in a loving and fulfilling relationship.
Intentions state to the universe and our sub-conscience exactly what we want and care must be taken in the language we use to express them. The sub-conscience does not understand negative language such as “not” and doesn’t distinguish between past and future tenses so,
- State intentions as positive rather than negative
- State them in the present tense as if they have already happened.
- Express your intentions with passion and enthusiasm.
“I am enjoying a fulfilled and fun life with my soul mate.”
“I appreciate and value my partner every day.”
All of the above about changing our thoughts, beliefs, desires and intentions can seem obvious but incredibly hard to put into practice when what we most want, a fulfilling and loving relationship, is taking forever to manifest and seems near impossible. Here are some tips to help you create a positive attitude about relationships which will eventually help you to attract the right relationship:
1. Maintain a high emotional frequency
In their book, Ask and It is Given, Esther and Jerry Hicks explain about raising your emotional frequency to the frequency of that which you desire. Let me give an example in terms of the law of attraction in relationships, if you most desire a loving and harmonious relationship and you are feeling jealous of others in good relationships or angry at an ex who has betrayed you, then your emotional frequency (jealousy or anger) does not match the frequency of what you desire, love. This is why it is so important to be over past relationships and be happy in other areas of your life.
2. Understand where your negative beliefs come from
It is much easier to overcome negative beliefs about relationships if you understand where they come from. Friends and other singletons may have reinforced a belief in you such as, “There are no decent guys/girls out there.” Your parents may have passed down negative beliefs about relationships such as, “Don’t expect too much in a relationship.”
3. Look out for signs that you are getting closer to being in a fulfilled and loving relationship
These signs could include getting attention from the opposite sex that you weren’t getting before or meeting new people who could introduce you to an eligible partner. Recognising any signs that the law of attraction is working for you gives you the hope and belief to keep aiming towards your vision and goals.
If you have already tried using the law of attraction in relationships and are having difficulty putting it into practice, I would be more than happy to answer your questions in this blog.
I passionately believe in using the law of attraction in relationships and regularly coach single people on how to use the law of attraction to meet their soul mate and offer 30-minute complimentary coaching sessions on this. Please contact me for more details.