Do treat your date with respect. If you’re a guy, be sure to open doors, help your date with her coat and make sure she gets home okay. If you’re a girl, show appreciation for the effort your date has made by being polite and friendly and laugh at his jokes.
Don’t be late. Being more than 5 or 10 minutes late without a genuine excuse shows that you can’t be bothered to make that much of an effort and a lack of commitment. It is acceptable for women to arrive slightly later than men but never abuse this unwritten rule.
Do warm up with general conversation such as how your date’s journey was.
Don’t talk about exes and if your date asks you about previous relationships, keep answers brief and to the point.
Do use open questions starting with “how”, “what”, “when” and “why” rather than closed questions starting with “do” or “is/are” which can elicit “yes” or “no” answers.
Don’t spend too long talking about your children, pets or work, talking endlessly about any of these can give the impression that you don’t have the space in your life for a signifcant other.
Do make an effort with your appearance on your first date. This includes wearing clothes that flatter you, shaving if you’re a man and subtle make-up if you’re a woman.
Don’t be pretentious on your date, being your own self is much more appealing and attractive.
Do maintain eye contact throughout the date, this shows you are interested in the other person and creates intimacy, as long as you are not staring the other person out and making them feel uncomfortable.
Don’t drink too much on your date. It is fine to have a couple of drinks to help you relax but drinking too much can lead you to saying and doing things which you may regret and can be a serious turn-off.
Do compliment your date, if you’re a guy, women love to hear compliments about their appearance, if you’re a woman a man likes to hear you complimenting his achievements.
Don’t have sex on a first date unless you are just looking for a one-night stand. If you sleep with someone on a first date, the chances are that you won’t ever make it to a second date.
Do end the date politely, even if you’re not interested in going on another one. Saying you have enjoyed the date is always appreciated.
Don’t lie about how you feel at the end of the date. There is nothing worse than leading someone along and saying you will call them or would like to see them again when this is clearly the last thing you want to do. It is much more respectful to say you have had a good time but are not interested in taking things any further.