A common fear for people new to the dating scene is, “what if I dry up and don’t have anything to say on my first date?” It’s worthwhile preparing ahead to keep first date conversation flowing. Firstly, think about conversation icebreakers. Don’t be afraid of starting off with the obvious such as:
“How was your journey here?”,
“How has your day been?”.
Move on to more interesting conversation and if you have met or spoken to the person before, pick up a previous topic. Follow the golden conversational rule of using open questions beginning with, how, what, when and why. Avoid closed questions, which elicit “no’s” and “yes’s”, these usually start with, “do”, and “is/are”
People usually love to talk about themselves so ask questions that allow them to do this such as:
“What do you enjoy doing outside of work?”,
“What’s most important to you in your life?”
“Where do you like to go on holiday?”
In a dating conversation men will tend to speak more than women. This is because women are generally better listeners. As a woman on a first date, make sure that you get your points across and don’t be afraid of interrupting to do so. Guys – make sure you take a breather and allow your date to speak.
As important as what to say on a first date, is what not to say. Avoid mention of “ex’s” and if the other person asks keep your answer brief. There is plenty of time for this subject, if you continue seeing each other. Ladies – avoid ever putting yourself down on a first date or making any comments about areas of your body that you don’t like. Also keep conversation relatively light and avoid politics and religion.